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What is Attachment Therapy?
Once you’ve been with a partner for around 3-6 months, you form an attachment. This is when the honeymoon stage wears off, the relationships start feeling real, and old fears from childhood rear their ugly heads.
If we’ve had childhoods that didn’t provide emotional consistency and safety, this level of intimacy feels unsafe and so we unconsciously sabotage or run away from the relationship
Attachment traumas often look like:
- Explosive anger & jealousy
- Cycles of pursuit & withdrawal that seem unsolvable
- Lying or hiding things to avoid conflict
- Starting fights when things are going well
- Being drawn to emotionally unavailable people (or being one yourself)
- Relationships ending abruptly in the 3rd or 4th month
How can Attachment Therapy help?
We all have relationship patterns we get stuck in, whether it’s being attracted to a certain type of person or the way we react during fights.
Healing your attachment wounds will let you step out of these cycles, and tune back in to the deeper needs and boundaries that were forgotten.
You’ll be able to form secure relationships with more people, developing a wider range of people you can connect with on a real level.
These secure attachments calm and relax the nervous system, and we can feel a deeper connection with the people in our lives – and a safer sense of independence on our own.
My Approach & Influences
I prefer to work with the disorganized/Fearful-Avoidant attachment style, as there are so few therapists who specialize in this (and it was my own attachment style before therapy).
If you’re not sure if you’re disorganized: Do you always react immediately to conflict? Or do you freeze?
My article to the right will help you understand this attachment style more.
My major influences & teachers in this work have been
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