About Me

Dace Mars

Dace Mars

M.Ed., Canadian Certified Counsellor

As a product of three clashing cultures (Canadian, Croatian, and Japanese), my life’s work has been about unifying conflicting beliefs and emotions.

Learning how to do this has involved living in 12 countries over 8 years, studying in as many ways to heal the mind, the heart, and the soul.

The result is a therapy perfect for people who are looking to discover new depths of themselves, and are wanting to love – and be loved.

If you are ready to step out of loneliness and towards your place in the world, I would be honoured to be your guide.

My Story

As a child, I had to grow up too fast. My parents had little control over their emotions, and from a young age I struggled to manage my parents so their tempers wouldn’t explode towards me.

Without space for my emotions, my teen years progressed from anger to numbness. By the time I was twenty, I had nothing I loved in myself, no idea what I was living for, and was completely disconnected from my feelings.

Romantic relationships provided ecstatic bursts of meaning, but always ended the same way – with me managing their emotions at the expense of mine.

After years of this cycle, I ended up doing a Masters degree in counselling psychology: not for myself, but to learn how to better take care of my girlfriend at the time.

But once I started this path, it led me down a different road. I learned about the subconscious, about Attachment Theory, and I got to study under psychologists with not just brilliant minds, but warm hearts powering them.

And along the way, I got to learn what it feels like to love, and to be loved.

I’ve discovered that no matter where we come from, what we’ve done, or how deep our wounds: we all need one thing. Warm, predictable relationships with people who care about our needs.

But many of us despair of finding this kind of love, because we’ve never experienced it. Love was conditional, or painful, or unsafe: and the scars it leaves are so tender we push away anyone who comes close.

This site exists to let you know that if this is how you grew up; it wasn’t your fault. You are not unlovable, and you can find the love you’ve longed for.

I’ve guided dozens of clients to break their cycles of toxic relationships, discover their individual sexuality, and build relationships they can be themselves in.

And the best part: When you know how to build this kind of love, your children grow up knowing what love can be. 

Your family’s traumas can end with you.

If you’re ready to make a real change, let’s work together.